Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Acceptance and Rejection

Why does acceptance come with so much difficulty and hardship and rejection come so easily? This is one question that has been bothering me since yesterday.

Call me stupid or too sensitive, but this has been my own observation. If someone changes their attitude towards you, or if someone suddenly starts avoiding you or looking at you differently, you can easily tell. The feeling of rejection can come just so easily. At least for me it can come very easily, but maybe that is because I know it is a matter of time before rejection occurs. Because no matter what people say or do, or reassure you that they are with you for the long haul, everyone leaves eventually. Some people may leave after one day, some people may leave after ten years, but all leave at some point. And a person does not even have to leave to reject you, they can just stay around in your live forever and ever and keep on rejecting you at the very exact same time. Rejection is never easy to handle. But it happens all the time. You can just sit in the corner minding your own beeswax and get rejected.

Acceptance, on the other hand, is very difficult to come by. To be accepted you have to fit a mold. Do so much hard work. Behave in a certain way. You are expected to make so many changes in yourself, changes that are not even humanly possible, and even if they are, you should not do them. Still, there is no guarantee of acceptance.

The best way to deal with all of this is to simply not deal with people. If you don't deal with people, you at least never put yourself up for rejection. Being on your own with no friends is never easy, but at least it helps you avoid rejection because even the person you consider a best friend, will reject you one day. Its best to remain alone than to put yourself up for rejection.

Saturday, February 01, 2014

Born to Stand Out, Eh? Or To Fit In?

Haven't we all heard this dialogue, "Why try to fit in when you are born to stand out". My Facebook wall seems to be plastered with that. That dialogue is like everywhere.

Hate it, can't stand it, think its a load of crap.

It is very easy to say to a person, "It doesn't matter if you don't fit in at all" or ""Its okay to be different" or a bunch of other stuff like that

However, people who speak like this have never had issues fitting it at all. When you are different from everyone else and feel rejected by the world, you are not going to be like, "Hey, at least I am standing out over here". Nope, no chance in hell. Instead you will be thinking, "I just want to fit in, I just want to be like everyone else and be a part of everyone else"

I have never fit in. I have always been the reject. The person rejected from society for being too different. I had my own personality. I had my own interests. I had my own hobbies. I had my own past times. I had my own ideas. I was fighting my own unique battles which I am pretty sure none of my classmates were. It was tough to be different. I could've given just anything in order to be like everyone else. I would still think the same. I still feel rejected by the world. Well in return, I rejected the world, so I guess both me and the world are even, LOL. While my classmates and all just would hang out and have fun, I'd be sitting in front of my computer reading articles and so badly wanting to discuss what I've read with someone. Not that I had anyone to hang out with and have fun with, but still. This is just an example.

Not fitting in is very difficult. Its tough. It takes its toll on a person. You can't say you are born to stand out. Because being different can be a curse. A death sentence.